Embracing Change: Why It’s Natural and How Avoiding It Holds You Back
Change—just hearing the word can make some of us feel uneasy, right? As women, we often wear many hats: mom, professional, partner, and friend. It can feel overwhelming to think about adding more change into the mix, especially when we’re just trying to hold it all together. But here’s the truth: change is a natural part of life, and resisting it only makes things harder. Let’s break down why embracing change is so important, how avoiding it can hold you back, and how you can start navigating life’s twists and turns with confidence and grace.
Why We’re Wired to Resist Change
You’re not alone if change feels uncomfortable. It’s a natural reaction. Our brains are wired to seek stability, a concept called homeostasis. It’s why we cling to routines and comfort zones—they feel safe and familiar. But here’s the kicker: while it might feel good to stay in one place, avoiding change can actually keep us stuck.
Neuroplasticity, another cool concept from psychology, is the brain’s ability to grow and adapt. Every time we face a new challenge or experience, our brain is learning, rewiring, and expanding. So even though change feels tough, it’s actually helping you become a stronger, more resilient version of yourself.
The Balancing Act of Motherhood, Work, and Family
As women, we juggle a lot. Motherhood alone is a journey full of change. One minute you’re figuring out how to raise a baby, the next you’re guiding them through school, friendships, and life. Throw in a career, maintaining a home, and trying to squeeze in some “me time,” and it’s no wonder we sometimes feel overwhelmed by the idea of more change.
But here’s the thing—change isn’t something to fear, it’s something to embrace. Balancing motherhood, work, and family is a daily reminder that we’re constantly adapting. It’s not about doing it all perfectly; it’s about growing, learning, and finding what works for you along the way.
My Journey: Raising a Daughter, Redefining Myself
Let me get real with you for a minute. I’m raising my daughter alone, finishing my education as a psychologist, maintaining a home, and adjusting to a new city—all while trying to rediscover who I truly am. It’s a lot, right? But here’s what I’ve learned: change is where the magic happens.
At first, it was terrifying. I had to let go of the things that once made me feel safe—old routines, toxic relationships, and familiar places. I had to embrace the unknown and trust that something better was waiting on the other side. As hard as it was, it’s been incredibly freeing.
Letting go of the things and people that no longer served me wasn’t easy. I had to face the reality that some of the people I thought loved me were holding me back. And learning to love myself—really love myself—was the biggest change of all. Before you can expect others to love you the way you deserve, you have to learn to give that love to yourself first. It’s not easy, but it’s necessary.
What Happens When You Avoid Change?
Avoiding change might feel comfortable in the short term, but it can hold you back in ways you might not even realize. Staying in your comfort zone can lead to feeling stuck—emotionally, mentally, and sometimes even physically. You might end up in a job that drains you, a relationship that isn’t healthy, or a life that doesn’t truly make you happy.
The fear of change can also lead to burnout. The constant effort to avoid it can keep you in a state of stress, and we all know how that story ends: exhaustion, frustration, and even a lack of motivation to pursue the things you once loved.
How to Start Embracing Change
So, how do you stop resisting change and start welcoming it with open arms? It’s all about taking small steps:
- Let Go of Perfection: There’s no such thing as perfect, so why hold yourself to that impossible standard? It’s okay to make mistakes—that’s where growth happens.
- Set Boundaries: Whether it’s with family, friends, or work, it’s okay to say no. Protect your energy and focus on what helps you grow.
- Accept Vulnerability: Yes, change can make you feel vulnerable, but that’s not a bad thing. Being vulnerable means you’re open to new possibilities.
- Prioritize Self-Love: If there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s that self-love is non-negotiable. Learn to love yourself first, and everything else will follow.
- Celebrate Your Wins: No matter how small they seem, celebrate your progress. Every step forward is a win.
The Bottom Line
Change is hard, but it’s also one of the most powerful tools we have for growth. When we embrace it, we open ourselves up to new opportunities, experiences, and—most importantly—discovering who we really are. For me, that’s meant learning to love myself fully, setting boundaries, and letting go of the things and people that no longer serve me. It’s been a journey, but it’s also been a transformation.
So, to all the women out there balancing motherhood, careers, family, and everything else—remember that you don’t have to fear change. It’s not the enemy. It’s your path to becoming the strongest, most authentic version of yourself. Embrace it. You’ve got this.